I love being pregnant. Most people look at me like I’m crazy when I say this. But I do! Stretch marks, nausea, frequent urination, all of it – I think the miracle of pregnancy is magical. Feeling a little person dancing around inside of you is simply amazing.
I always knew that I wanted to be a mom and the days that my children were born were the best days of my life. My dreams came true, I got my happily ever after, and now I can’t wait to help someone else get theirs.
Some might wonder how I could give up a baby I’ve carried for 9 months? Won’t I feel like it’s my baby? Gestational surrogates are not genetically related to the baby. The embryos are created by the parents and/or donors and the bun will get into my oven via IVF. So, no, I won’t feel like it’s my baby because it’s not my baby. I won’t be giving the baby up; I’ll be giving the baby back. I’m simply going to babysit the little peanut until he or she is big enough to go home. Will I love the baby? Yes! The same way I love my friends’ babies and my nieces and nephews! I love them, I love hearing how they’re doing, I love visiting them – but I certainly don’t want to keep them! 🙂
Do I get paid to be a surrogate? All the medical bills are covered by the intended parents and, yes, I do get compensated for my “pain and suffering” (nausea, transvaginal ultrasounds, insomnia, daily hormone injections, constipation, hemorrhoids, heartburn, childbirth, episiotomies, etc. etc. Can you really put a price on these things?). I’m not doing it for the money. We are an upper class family, we do not need the money. I am not a destitute woman desperate for money and forced to “rent” my womb, as the Lifetime movies on surrogacy would have you believe. The money is nice (of course!) but what’s even better is the fact that I get to help someone become a parent. When I think back to the moments when I held my babies for the very first time, the complete and utter happiness that I was feeling, the feeling of my heart exploding with love; and I think about being able to help someone else have those feelings and experience that life changing moment; that’s why I want to be a surrogate, that’s why I’m doing it.
I have always been passionate about families. My undergraduate degree is in Family Social Science and my masters degree is in Family Education. I changed my major several times in college. Nothing felt right until I discovered Family Social Science; this was the perfect fit for me. Learning about all aspects of family life and parenting – it didn’t even feel like school to me, I love the content so much. I feel so strongly about the importance of family!!!
Surrogacy has always been something I knew I wanted to do once my family was complete. In fact, it’s one of the first things I told Shane about myself when we started dating. It is not something that I enter into lightly. I have been thinking about it since I was 16. I have read every blog, forum, and article related to surrogacy that I could possibly find. Shane and I have spent countless hours talking about it. I spent months researching which agency I want to work with. I asked a million questions of the agencies that I spoke with. And I feel confident in my agency choice and in their ability to guide me through my journey.
I am so excited to begin this journey!!!!