Our Journey To Baby Milo

Two years, 3 embryo transfers, 150 hormone injections….and I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat! Here is our journey to baby Milo:


36 Weeks!

36 weeks and baby is measuring 8 lbs 14 ounces!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I’m dilated to 3 and 75% effaced! R will be here on Monday.  E will be here a week later with their daughter.  I’ll definitely be taking it easy until Monday and I had a chat with surro babe, telling him he has to stay put at least until his Daddy gets here, and preferably until both daddies and his big sister are here.  😉

Coincidentally, Monday is Labor Day.  Lol!

Lately I’ve been feeling exactly how I felt right before my own babies were born.  Looks like it’s nearly time to deliver this not-so-little guy back into his daddies’ arms.  We’re so excited!

BIG Baby!

We are 8 months this week!  The weeks are flying by!  

Our appointment this week went great.  Surro babe is head down (yay!) and looks perfect! His heart rate is 155 which is awesome. He is measuring 6.6 pounds already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  No wonder I feel so huge and squished! Check out his adorable chubby cheeks:  

I will be seeing my OB weekly now for the remainder of the pregnancy. Whenever a baby is on the bigger side, my OB does weekly ultrasounds and fetal non stress tests just making sure that the baby is thriving. Because of a marginal placenta we’ve been watching surro babe making sure he’s growing enough and now we’re watching him because he’s grown so much! Oh the irony! 

R and E are busy getting everything ready for their stay here (flights, short term rental, all the newborn gear, etc.).  So exciting!!!

Bonding From Afar 

We are 31 weeks!!  My babies all came 1-2 weeks early so we are anticipating the same for this birth.  That means that surro babe will likely be back in his daddies’ arms where he belongs in just 7 to 8 weeks!  In the meantime, surro babe spends his evenings listening to voice messages from his daddies and big sister (with the help of Belly Buds).  I play the messages every evening when surro babe is most active so he can bond with his family and know their voices when he’s born.  ❤️

24 Weeks!

We’re 6 months!!! My daughter was telling surro babe that he’s really lucky because he has two daddies so that means he’ll get lots and lots of tickles. Lol!!!!! Apparently Daddy tickles are the best! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

We had our 6 month appointment this week and everything looks great!  Blood pressure is low, hemoglobin is great, uterus is measuring at exactly 24 weeks, baby’s heart rate is awesome at 145, and I passed the glucose test with flying colors.  Yay!!!!!  

Based on my past delivery history, my OB predicts surro babe will be here in 14 weeks or so!  We are all so excited!  

We’re Legal!

The contract is complete, signed, and notarized!   So, now that we are all official, we can schedule my med start date and embryo transfer!  Shane and I are very excited!   R and E are super excited!!

Shane sent me this sweet message after I told him that we got legal clearance:

“Congratulations, I’m very proud of you for pursuing a life long dream like this.  One of the reasons I wanted to marry you was because you have such a big heart and the emphasis you put on family. I’m glad our kids get to see this.”

Awe!!!!!! ❤️

 Shane and I (and Luna) after notarizing the contract.

It’s A Match!

Our match meeting went great!  The meeting itself, as you might imagine, was a little awkward.  Perfect strangers talking about having one person carry the other people’s baby.  Throw in another stranger facilitating the discussion.  And do it all via Skype.  Most of the call consisted of the facilitator from the agency asking questions of the IFs and of Shane and I, most of which we had already answered and shared with one another in our profiles.  So, there really wasn’t any new information being shared during the call. It sort of felt like the IFs were just kind of going through the motions for most of the call.  But at the end of our call, they brought their 18 month old daughter on (also born via surrogate) so we could meet her and the IFs completely lit up and were so incredibly happy in that moment – I knew right then that they were the ones for us! Shane felt it too! The IFs must have had a good feeling as well because the next day we both informed the agency that we want to move forward together!  (Well, actually, I emailed the agency about three minutes after the Skype call. 😄).

Since then, we’ve been starting to get to know each other via text and Skype.   And the IFs, R and E, plan to come to MN to visit us sometime in the near future.  As we’re building our relationship with R and E, it reminds me of dating.  Anxiously awaiting their messages, feeling excited when I hear from them…

Our next step is to complete the contract and schedule the transfer.  Very, very, very exciting!!!!!