I know that 2017 will always hold a special place in my heart. I will forever treasure this past year and the amazing journey my family and I shared with Milo’s daddies.
As I think about 2018, I’m so excited and hopeful. I’m excited for Ben and Ryan and their dream of becoming fathers. And I’m hopeful that this time next year I’ll be sharing another picture collage of another incredible journey. I can’t wait!!!
The gestational carrier agreement, or contract, is basically a 60 page document full of declarations and legal jargon. It covers every possible “what if” scenario that could arise during a journey and it lays out any and all aspects of the journey which Ben, Ryan, Shane, and I have previously discussed and agreed upon. Our contract is now complete making our match official! Yay!! We’re one step closer to transfer!
We’ve been texting every day with Ben and Ryan. Our friendship has developed so easily and so naturally. We just adore them! And we are so grateful that the fates aligned, bringing us all together!
Next week, I’m meeting with Ben and Ryan’s RE and completing my medical screening. After that, we will be able to schedule the transfer! And Ben and Ryan are coming for a visit in February – we can’t wait!!!!!!!!
I am so excited to share that Shane and I are matched for a second journey! We received a profile last week and as soon as we read it we had this overwhelming feeling that it’s the right match for us. The intended parents felt the same way about my profile! Our feelings were confirmed at our match meeting. We all felt completely comfortable and none of us could stop smiling throughout our Skype meeting. We excitedly agreed that we want to move forward together!
So who are these awesome intended parents…?
Their names are Ryan and Ben and they’re from Australia. They are incredibly sweet, kind, and personable. And they are beyond excited to become fathers. Their happiness, joy and excitement for this journey is so genuine; we’re thrilled to be a part of that. We’ve only been matched for a week but it feels like we’ve known them for much longer. Shane and I truly feel that this match was meant to be and we are so honored and excited to get to be a part of helping Ben and Ryan on their path to parenthood.
We’re working on our legal contract now and hope to transfer by early March. In the meantime, we are enjoying getting to know each other via text and Skype. My kids have been peppering the guys with questions about Australia (koala bears, Vegemite, kangaroos…). 😄
Ben and Ryan are planning to come for a visit in the next couple of months. We can’t wait to hang out with them in person!
If all goes well, this time next year, we’ll be watching our new friends become fathers. ❤️
*Names and photo shared with permission.
I can’t believe Milo is nearly 2 months old! He is doing great – eating and sleeping well, starting to smile, and making cute baby sounds. Madeline and R and E are back in their routine at home and loving life as a family of four. ❤️
In other exciting news, Shane and I have decided to do another journey! My OB and several REs have approved me. While we’re nervous a second journey won’t turn out as amazingly as our journey with R and E did, Shane and I are hopeful for another awesome match and another beautiful journey! Stay tuned!
I’ve been asked this question many times since Milo was born. My response is always the same: Nope, not even a little bit. Milo was never my baby. I didn’t give him up. I gave him back.
I didn’t develop a maternal connection to Milo during the pregnancy. I felt towards him the way I feel about my friends’ babies or the kids that I used to baby sit. I cared about him and I wanted to protect him but I didn’t feel the way I felt when carrying my own children.
And I didn’t have that crazy rush of emotion when he was born like I did with my own children. When R laid Milo on my chest, my heart didn’t explode with love. I didn’t fall head over heels for this tiny little person. But I watched as R and E did. I watched as their hearts exploded with love. I watched as they fell head over heels. And in the midst of that special moment, E turned to me, teary eyed, and mouthed thank you. I’ll never, ever forget that moment. Nor will I forget the emotional hugs and the joy that we all shared at Milo’s birth.
What I did feel when Milo was born was incredibly happy and incredibly proud. My dream of helping a family through surrogacy has finally come true. I did it! These awesome dads now have a son, and their daughter now has a brother, their families now have a new grandson, a nephew, a cousin….I played a huge part in making that happen. When Milo’s grandma arrived in town after the birth, she gave me the biggest hug and expressed such gratitude to me. I helped bring joy and happiness to this family. I’m so proud and honored to have been able to do so.
This experience was simply amazing and we now share a very special connection with our friends across the the globe. ❤️
I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! In fact, my OB has cleared me to do another journey…so hopefully I get the chance to!
“If you have the power to make someone else happy, you should do it. The world needs more of that.”
Two years, 3 embryo transfers, 150 hormone injections….and I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat! Here is our journey to baby Milo:
Baby watch has officially begun!!!! After several days of contractions, surro babe’s daddies (and big sister) rushed to get here in case their not-so-little guy decides to come earlier than expected. We’re so happy they’re here! And we’re so excited to be a part of helping this family grow.
36 weeks and baby is measuring 8 lbs 14 ounces!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m dilated to 3 and 75% effaced! R will be here on Monday. E will be here a week later with their daughter. I’ll definitely be taking it easy until Monday and I had a chat with surro babe, telling him he has to stay put at least until his Daddy gets here, and preferably until both daddies and his big sister are here. 😉
Coincidentally, Monday is Labor Day. Lol!
Lately I’ve been feeling exactly how I felt right before my own babies were born. Looks like it’s nearly time to deliver this not-so-little guy back into his daddies’ arms. We’re so excited!
We are 8 months this week! The weeks are flying by!
Our appointment this week went great. Surro babe is head down (yay!) and looks perfect! His heart rate is 155 which is awesome. He is measuring 6.6 pounds already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No wonder I feel so huge and squished! Check out his adorable chubby cheeks:
I will be seeing my OB weekly now for the remainder of the pregnancy. Whenever a baby is on the bigger side, my OB does weekly ultrasounds and fetal non stress tests just making sure that the baby is thriving. Because of a marginal placenta we’ve been watching surro babe making sure he’s growing enough and now we’re watching him because he’s grown so much! Oh the irony!
R and E are busy getting everything ready for their stay here (flights, short term rental, all the newborn gear, etc.). So exciting!!!
We are 31 weeks!! My babies all came 1-2 weeks early so we are anticipating the same for this birth. That means that surro babe will likely be back in his daddies’ arms where he belongs in just 7 to 8 weeks! In the meantime, surro babe spends his evenings listening to voice messages from his daddies and big sister (with the help of Belly Buds). I play the messages every evening when surro babe is most active so he can bond with his family and know their voices when he’s born. ❤️